Tuesday, 3 September 2013

Getting braver

Dear Ella,

Think I am getting braver, or maybe the moment was right or something.

But, I was asked the dreaded question this morning "Do you have any other children beside your daughter Sophie"?   Of course the answer is "yes, I have another daughter Ella, but sadly she died last year".

To date I have managed to avoid that question, have skirted around it, or even not told the truth - which  has not felt right at all.

But I said it, and was truly grateful that the other person could cope, was matter of fact, sympathetic, interested, but not to interested - and then we moved on to another subject - cant even remember what.

Lots of love



  1. So Painful to have to say those words & glad the receiver was able to deal with it sensitively - you have been incredibly brave & strong throughout & Ella & Sophie are rightly very proud of an amazing mum

  2. Jo, how truly wonderful you are. Never mind footballers and pop stars, people should be looking at someone like you for inspiration. I can't speak for anyone else but your words really move me and although I can't begin to imagine what you and your family have been through I feel privileged to be able to witness the continuing journey through your very brilliant words. Ella and Sophie must be so proud to have such a fantastic mum. X